When is it O.K. to be a jerk? I was thinking about this after a couple of run-ins with some folks. But, of course, the answer for a Christian: never.
Some folks seem to think that being assertive is being a jerk. So first of let's define "jerk." Jerk, in this sense, is a person who is oblivious to the commonly accepted practice of manners and politeness in human interaction.
I don't know how much of jerkiness is nature vs. nurture. But it may be overcome if you are not totally a narcissist.
Jerkiness vs. direct and confrontational can change depending on the culture. For example, you may be a jerk if you don't know or care about the rules.
Pay attention to the reaction of other people. Notice also if all your friends are obnoxious jerks, well, you birds of a feather.
Being a jerk is easy on social media. Unfortunately, people who are generally not jerks can be one when they are behind the keyboard.
Ask for feedback from friends, mentors, and family. Be open to change and please for the sake of our society, "Don't be a jerk!"
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